10 Compelling Signs You’re Doing Better Than You Think

It’s defeating, isn’t it?

The perfect life you’ve dreamed off seems miles away.  Living a life you love sounds like a fairy tale reserved for actors, athletes, and corporate business owners.

Not for someone like you.

Sure, you have goals, but you’re nowhere near completing even half at your rate.  You might as well suck it up, quit now, and learn to be content living a mediocre life.

Or maybe, your fantasy life is closer than you think.

A Sudden Wake Up Call

Not long ago, I felt exactly the same.  I was in college, getting an education so I could spend the next 40 years making someone else rich, hoping to be reimbursed with a peaceful retirement.

Then something happened.

I woke up one morning with an excruciating pain in my stomach.  I was forced to go to the emergency room and eventually was diagnosed with Pancreatitis.

The doctors couldn’t explain why it happened but part of my pancreas was dead.  It was no longer producing insulin and if the disease continued to spread, it would kill me.

After that, everything changed.  With part of my body gone, the rest of me felt more alive than ever.  Something terrible happened, but it made me realize how blessed I already was.

Looking at the bigger picture, you’re so much closer to living a life you love than you give yourself credit for.  The fact that you’re here now, reading this, means something.  By the time you reach the end of this post you’ll realize how amazing your life already is.

1.  You’re Alive

We live on a pale blue dot in a vast stadium of empty space.  Somehow this tiny speck of a rock we live on formed something called life.

That itself is a miracle.

On top of that, you’re here.  You were born into this world, and despite all the diseases, predators, and so many ways to die, you’re still here.

2.  You Have Basic Essentials

“Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about.” – Rollo May

A place to sleep.  Somewhere to escape the cold & rain.  Clothes to keep you warm.  Food to nourish your body.

These are things that have become so normal we never give a second thought on how hard life would be without them.

Humanity has mastered our basic needs allowing us to do something more with our lives than simply survive another day.

3.  You Know How To Read

If you’ve made it this far through the article, I assume you know how to read, but according to the website Statistic Brain, over 775 Million people in the world can’t.

Reading puts us at such an advantage from our ancestors who came before us by allowing us to record history and learn from our past mistakes.

It comes as second nature, but the fact that these weird looking lines on a screen make sense to you is pretty amazing.

4.  You Have Access To The Internet

At the end of 2014, 60% of the world still wasn’t connected to the internet.

With a global network in your hands you’re given the potential to connect with lives all across the globe.  You can literally change someone’s life without ever meeting them in person.

Even goals away from the web, such as getting in shape.  It’s way easier having the internet to search for great workout plans and healthy recipes to fit what best suits your needs.

The internet has become so accessible in developed countries that it’s potential has become something seriously taken for granted.

5.  You’re Still Learning

“Once you stop learning, you start dying.” – Albert Einstein

Being a know-it-all isn’t any fun.  Humans are natural explorers and it’s in our DNA to discover more.

Just because you have a master’s degree doesn’t mean education stops, if anything you’re just getting started.

Learning everyday puts you so much further ahead than those who think they already know everything they need to know. source: http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/


7 Motivational Quotes to Help You Face Your Fears (Because Worry Never Fixes Anything)

It’s the most wonderful time of the year, fall is. I love the crisp, breezy weather, the smell of bonfires and the sound of crunching leaves, the oranges, the reds, the yellows. Apple orchards and pumpkin patches and hayrides. Sweaters and boots and plaid. Pumpkin-flavored everything. (Go ahead, call me basic—not offended in the slightest.)

And, yes, I know technically the first day of autumn was Sept. 23, but I live in Texas, and it was 90 degrees until, like, last week. So I’m celebrating now instead. Sue me.

Coincidentally (or maybe not really), my favorite holiday is a fall holiday. And it’s tomorrow. Except unlike the bright colors of fall, Halloween is dark. The ghosts and goblins, the witches and werewolves, the vampires and zombies. Haunted houses. Scary movies. It’s creepy. It’s kooky. It’s mysterious and spooky.

Everything about Halloween is fear-full. And even though real fear isn’t the same as Halloween’s usual suspects, it seems like a pretty relevant time to talk about it, amiright? So let’s.

Fear is something that lurks in the shadows of our minds, a “monster” that haunts us, a “spell” that paralyzes us.

Like anybody else, I know what fear feels like. When I’m anxious about something, my stomach does somersaults and my throat gets tight. My mind gets tangled, muddled—the worry, the dread, stalks my thoughts.

What are you afraid of? Have you ever really thought about it, the things that distract you, that are holding you back? Are they worth fearing? Are they really worth the angst, the stress? Probably not. Because worry never really fixes anything, you know? Like author Leo Buscaglia said, “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.” Preach.

And I know that’s easier said than done, to just stop…. I mean, you’re talking to the queen of overthinking. But maybe these motivational quotes about fear—about understanding it and facing it—can help us both.

Let’s face our fears together. Let’s show ‘em whose boss. Ready? I am.

1. “Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” ― Marie Curie

2. “Fears are nothing more than a state of mind.” — Napoleon Hill

3. „Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.“ — Judy Blume

4. “Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.” — Norman Vincent Peale

5. “Obstacles are like wild animals. They are cowards but they will bluff you if they can. If they see you are afraid of them… they are liable to spring upon you; but if you look them squarely in the eye, they will slink out of sight.” — Orison Swett Marden

6. “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

7. “Always do what you are afraid to do.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson – source: http://www.success.com/

If You’ve Struggled To Understand Exactly How The ‘Law of Attraction’Brings Abundance And Prosperity Into Your Life… Get Ready:
“It’s FINALLY Time To Make It Happen!”


30 Things to Start Doing Right Now to Improve Your Life

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Have you ever wondered why there are so many unhappy people around? It’s difficult to meet a happy person, and that is why we consider it normal when life is full of problems and sorrow.

It is not normal. The reality should be different. Happiness and peace should accompany our soul all the time. What makes us unhappy is overestimated expectations toward ourselves, our relatives, our income, our career, etc.

People who have overestimated expectations consider their imperfection and environment a reason of their unstable internality. They are sure to jitter because the reality differs from what they want, and they think they should make all dreams come true to recover poise.

But such assurance is not enough. Every day is the starting point of something new. While we make plans, life goes by, and we don’t become happier. Don’t make plans. Motivate yourself to live right now.

Make your every day amazing with these 30 things to do right now:


1. Spend time with right people

They love you and have a positive influence on you. They make you feel a passion to life, they accept you for whom you are, and you want to look up to them.


2. Meet problems with your head high

It’s not your problems only that can tell about you but the way you solve them and react to them. Problems will not disappear until you start acting.


3. Be honest with yourself

Confess what you want to achieve and whom you want to be. Always be honest with yourself because you are the only person you can rely on. Look for the truth in your soul.


4. Put your own happiness first

Your needs are important. If you do not take care of yourself and if you do not protect yourself, you make everything worse. Remember: it’s always possible to take care of yourself, taking into account the needs of those around you.


5. Be yourself and be proud of that

Your attempts to become someone else damages the personality inside you. Be yourself, use that person inside – his or her ideas, strengths, charm — and you’ll become a better version of yourself. If you can’t do that, you won’t be able to do that with other people.


6. Pay attention to the present

Everything wonderful happens right here and now. Right now is the only moment you have for sure, so stop thinking about your great future achievements. Stop living with your past or your future because life is what happens today. Be grateful for the moment your life gives you.


7. Appreciate the lessons you’ve learned from your mistakes

If you don’t fail sometimes, you don’t try and learn. Great achievements always come at the end of a long road paved with mistakes and attempts. Risk, fail, try again. Build a bridge to your success.


8. Be polite toward yourself

If you had a friend who spoke to you the way you spoke to yourself sometimes, would you be able to keep his company? Your attitude toward yourself is the example for others on how to behave with you.


9. Take pleasure from what you already have

The problem of many people is their waiting for happiness to come after achieving something great, a level of life their boss or friends have, for example. As the result, your whole life will be spent on constant work, and you will not have time to stop and admire the moment. Learn to take pleasure from what you already have.


10. Create your happiness

You waste your time, waiting for someone who’ll make you happy. Smile because you are the one who can do that. Choose your happiness and be the change you want to see in this world.

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

11. Give a chance to your ideas and dreams

Life is not about getting a chance but using it. You’ll never be 100% sure you’ll succeed, but you can be 100% sure you won’t succeed if you do nothing. You will win anyway, whether it is success or a good lesson.


12. Believe you are ready for the next step

You are ready! Think of it. You have everything needed for taking a small step forward. Use a chance and the  resources you have, and do not hide from problems.


13. Build relations with new people when needed

Choose honest people who are a reflection of the personality you are or want to be. Build relations with people you are proud to call your friends, people who love and respect you.


14. Give new people a chance

It’s the ugly truth, but you can’t support relations with everyone who was your friend. People change, and your priorities change, too. Relations come to an end, but new relations appear. Trust your judgments, appreciate a chance to meet new people and become their friends. Be ready to learn, get ready for problems, but also get ready to meet someone who will change your life forever.


15. Compete with your old self

Get inspiration from people, value them, learn from them but remember: competing with them will be your waste of time. The only person to compete with is yourself.  Set goals to achieve more, and compete for becoming better than you are now.


16. Be happy for others

Be happy for people who succeed, and be grateful for everything good they do for you. Sooner or later, your attitude toward them will come back to you, and people will be happy for you, too.


17. Look for good in bad situations

When everything is bad and when you are upset, remember that problems can (and they will) make you stronger. Concentrate on what you have rather than what you don’t have.


18. Forgive yourself and others

Healing is forgiving. It doesn’t mean you forget about something that hurt you; it means you forget your pain, learn from it, and move on.


19. Help everyone around you

Take care of people. If you know a better way, show it to them. The more you help others, the more others will want to help you. Love and kindness bear love and kindness. And it will always be so.


20. Listen to your inner self

If it helps, discuss your ideas with your close friends, but do not forget about your intuition, too. Be honest with yourself. Do what your heart tells you to do.

“Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” – Henry David Thoreau

21. Do not allow yourself to stress. Take some breaks

Slow down and take it easy. Allow yourself to pause and go forward clearly and purposefully. When you are busy, a little break can bring you back to the freshness of mind.


22. Notice a beauty of every moment

Look for happiness in small events instead of waiting for something great to happen: a cup of coffee in the morning, a smell of homemade food, or hands of a beloved person in your hands.


23. Accept good even if it’s not ideal

Remember: the ideal is the enemy of good. Sometimes it’s better to accept the world and people rather than trying to idealize them. Learn to love unideal, too.


24. Work on getting closer to your goals

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Whatever you dream about, do something to move closer to it every day.


25. Don’t hide your feelings

If you feel bitter, give yourself time to take offense, but do not hide your emotions. Talk to your close friends about that, tell them what you feel. It’s not difficult to do, and it can be the first step toward your good mood.


26. Be responsible for your life

Let your choices and mistakes be yours, be ready to do something to solve your problems. You are the only person who should manage your life. And yes, it’s not always easy.


27. Develop the most important relations

You can’t be everything for everyone, but you can be everything for a couple of people. You do not need many friends, you need friends whom you can call real.


28. Focus on what you can control

There are a lot of things out of our control. Focus on what you can control. If you can’t control something at least control your attitude or reaction to it.


29. Focus on positive results

You should believe you CAN do it. Listen to your inner self, think positively. And take a step forward.


30. Think about how rich you are

When hard times come, it’s important to see everything in the long view: you can choose clothes to wear today, you have water, you are free to have weird habits, you have the Internet access, etc. Be grateful for what you have.

source: http://addicted2success.com/


10 Steps That Will Help You To Change Your Life

The ten steps listed here are fundamental thinking changes that you need to make to change your life. Anything less is like spray painting rust. You need to get down deep and scrub out the oxides from your thought processes so that you can re-engineer yourself from the ground up.

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1. Make Your Word The Most Important Thing In Your Life

Do not give your word lightly. Treat giving your word as precious as if you were giving somebody a diamond embedded in solid gold. Make your word the most important thing in your life, so that when you do give it out, you always follow through. If you even have 1% of doubt, then do not give your word and do not say things that you are not going to do. The pressure this relieves from you is enormous if you commit to it.

2. Understand That Lies Are Proof You Are Being Controlled

Do you lie to your boss about why you were off work? Do you lie to your spouse about where you were? Do you lie to your parents about how much money you make? It is because they have control over you in some way or another. A person that is free to be honest is a person that doesn’t allow others to control his or her life or destiny.

3.Remove Negative People From Your Life

Negative people are like oil in a freshwater pond. The impact they have on your life will stick with you for years, and it may stain your personality in a way that is almost impossible to recover from. If you “have” to be around a negative person, then do not allow them to be negative around you.

If that person keeps telling sad stories, then refuse to hear them. If that person gives you negative advice, tell them you will not hear their advice unless it is positive. Do not allow negative people to infect your life.

4. Broccoli Smoothies Will Make Change Your Life
Put fresh or frozen broccoli (defrosted) into a blender, add a little water and lemon juice, blend it up until it is drinkable and then down it in one go before the taste is able to make you throw up. Doing so on a daily basis will improve your health within six weeks, after which it will become more difficult to become sick. It will also give you more energy, speed up your metabolism, and help you lose weight and keep the weight off.

5.Understand That People Do Not Hold Up A Mirror To Themselves

Ever meet somebody that appears angry almost all the time? They seem to have a face and a manner that suggests they are in a bad mood or are easily upset? That person doesn’t know that he or she is coming across that way.

What is worse is that people then treat that person as if he or she is moody or in a bad mood, so that person sees a sea of disgruntled and/or nervous faces, which just amplifies their moody behavior further.

Give people the benefit of the doubt unless they prove otherwise, and do not be offended or hurt when people have angry outbursts at you. It is their own problem and their own issue, so do not be so arrogant as to take it personally.

6. Always Ask What 10-Years-In-The-Future You Would Say

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Life coaches, online gurus, and the rest of the shysters in the Internet are going to tell you to think of the future when you put that extra piece of cake in your mouth, or that cigarette to your lips. But, thinking of the future is pointless because it is too far away to care. Instead, remember what you were like and what you were doing ten years ago and think what you would have said to that person.

Now imagine yourself in ten years in the future, and ask yourself what you would say to yourself today. You may avoid making decisions that are bad for you. Furthermore, if the advice you give yourself ten years from now is the advice you would have given yourself ten years in the past, then it is time for some fundamental life changes.

7 – Learn How To Cope With Anything

“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.” (Rocky Balboa, 2006). You can let the world crush you, or you can make a conscious decision to learn how to cope with anything that the world throws at you. Decide today, will you be a victor or a victim?

8 – Accept That You Are An Addict Because You Feel Helpless

Addiction affects most people at some point in their lives. Most people pull themselves out of it without hitting rock bottom, but if you find that addiction is taking over your life, understand that you are an addict because there is something in your life that is making you feel helpless. Remove the cause of your feelings of helplessness, and then work to find ways of coping that do not involve your addictive act.

9 – Understand That Your Conscience Will Hold You Back
Talk to a 70 year old with a clean conscious and speak to one with a filthy conscious. One will have a sparkle in his or her eye and will look well rested, the other will look whipped. Can you guess which is which?

10 – Treat Others How They Want To Be Treated

They say treat others as you wish to be treated yourself, but who are you to judge? People don’t want to be treated as they treat you, they want to be treated the way they want to be treated.

Think of it this way, when a child runs up to you and tells you that he is Thor, do you disagree with him, or do you play along? That is all you are doing when you treat others how they want to be treated. Is your boss always trying to impose his/her authority to make up for his or her fundamental lack of authority? Treat him/her as if he or she has masses of authority. It is not sincere, but it won’t hurt you unless you let it go too far, so what do you have to lose?

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Laura Jonson is a passionate freelance writer and motivating coach. Now she is a mentor on essay writing resource www.assignmentmasters.co.uk AssignmentMasters UK. In the future, she is planning to publish a book. source: http://www.pickthebrain.com/


The Key ingredient to your success (maybe not the one you are expecting…)

When I get asked what “the secret of my success” is, or why things are working so well, or how I went from selling 30 books a month to 1000 books a month, I usually answer that the main reason for great things happening in my life right now is probably the “Power of Gratitude” meaning he constant state of gratitude I’m in.
Grateful for good things that happen every day and even for good things that are on the way to me, but not in my life yet.
Grateful for every experience, grateful to be alive and healthy. There are so many reasons to be grateful for! Unfortunately many of us forget about them, because we are so busy doing other things all the time.

The Key ingredient to your success

Listen to Oprah Winfrey when she says: “Be grateful for what you have every day and you will attract more things to be grateful for.”
Here are some of the many benefits of the “Attitude of Gratitude”:
  • It recharges you with energy 
  • It boosts your self-worth. 
  • It’s directly linked to physical and mental well-being. 
  • It leads you directly to happiness 
  • It’s the best antidote to anger, envy, and resentment! 
Let it become part of your nature! Be grateful for what you have, for all the small things around you, and even for the things you don’t have yet!
Don’t say, “I’ll be grateful when…” like I did for many years. Take the shortcut: Be grateful NOW – no matter what – and make gratitude a daily habit:
Start the day by saying thank you for what you have (instead of complaining about what you don’t have). This will have an immediate effect on your life. Focus on the good things that you can find every day.


I suggest to all my coaching clients that they write down at least 3 things they are grateful for each day; it’s even better if they do it both in the morning and again in the evening.
Also start a gratitude list where you write down everything you are grateful for in your life. (That should be a long list!)
It’s scientifically proven that if you are grateful for just five minutes a day, after three weeks you feel considerably happier! You just have to DO it consistently without fail, and that’s what most people don’t manage. Many times when we don’t see immediate results we give up. Well… DON’T!
A while ago I had somebody telling me: this stuff doesn’t work!! And I thought, “This can’t be!”


If you do it over two or three weeks this stuff always works. So, I looked closely and found out that there are actually three exceptions.


The power of gratitude won’t work for you if:


  1. You don’t FEEL the gratitude! You just repeat things that you think you ‘should’ be grateful for, but you don’t really feel that feeling of gratitude resonating inside you.
  1. You come from a place of lack: “At least I have this, at least I have that…” NOOOOO!! When you’re focusing on lack what happens? You attract MORE lack!
  1. You are so stuck in your hectic work days and routines or – even worse – with a negative mindset that you think it’s just impossible to come up with something you are grateful for.
Is this you?


•Stress, fear, doubt and worry control your life and you can’t for even a moment calm your mind and think of anything that you could be grateful for.
•You try to be grateful, but all that you can think of is everything you don’t have and all the things that are going wrong. (Be careful what you focus on…you’ll get more of it…)
•As soon as you try to come up with something you could be grateful for, the voice in your head goes, “You have NOTHING to be grateful for! Life is just a big, continuous struggle.”
•You think, “Today is not a great day for that gratefulness thing. Maybe tomorrow something great will happen for which I can be really grateful. I’ll start tomorrow.”
•It seems that this whole law of attraction nonsense doesn’t work with you, because you keep on attracting what you don’t want instead of what you do want.


So what do you do?
Here are some techniques to find things to be grateful for even if you think you have nothing to be grateful for:
Ask yourself: “If I had something to FEEL grateful for, what would it be?”


Look back at your life and think of things you can be grateful for – even though they are not a part of your daily life anymore. Often we forget to be grateful when things changed for the better. You can be grateful for that now.


Think of a time in the past when things weren’t going so well, but eventually everything turned out fine. Wouldn’t you have been immensely grateful for that back then? It’s never too late to show gratitude.


If a friend asked you, “What should I be grateful for?” what answer would you give them?
Still can’t come up with anything to be grateful for? Try some (actually all) of these things you could be grateful for:


•being alive
•three meals a day
•being healthy
•your body
•your friends and family
•your talents
•your achievements
•the place you live in
•business partners
•random acts of kindness
•painful lessons that you overcame
•most of all, you could be grateful for the power of hope!
No matter how big a rut you are in at this moment, there is hope that tomorrow could be different – provided your tomorrow isn’t an excuse, but an earnest desire to begin!


Tomorrow you can change your life, lose that weight, get your dream job, start your own business, repay the loans, find your soul mate, go to your dream destination, and if that doesn’t warrant a need for being grateful, then I don’t know what does!


There is a lot to be grateful for. Look within and you’ll undoubtedly find a long list.

Action Steps: 

  1. Make a list of everything you have in your life that you are grateful for. Write down everything you can think of.
       (This should be a long list!)


2) For 21 days every day write 3 to 5 things that you are grateful for that day in your journal. Before going to sleep, relive the moments. Relive the happiness. It’s important to FEEL the happiness and the state of gratitude. If you do the exercise in the morning just after waking up and at night before going to sleep, it will be even more powerful! source: http://everydaypowerblog.com/

10 Millennials Confess Their Secret Self-Care Habits

ICYMI, the adult coloring book craze was kind of a thing this summer. CBS News even reported that “grown-up activity books,” which help adults de-stress and unplug from their busy lives, have already cracked several top spots on Amazon’s best-seller lists. It’s solid evidence that when the going gets tough, the tough get going—and like to indulge in a little self-care, quirky as their method of choice may be.

While there are definitely some common threads in how we deal with stress (hey Netflix, hi Seamless), taking care of yourself is really about finding what works for you as an individual. Need some new material? Take a cue from these ten 20-somethings, who were happy to confess their own self-care habits:

[Related: 7 Apps to Help Declutter Your Mind]

1. A mani, a pedi, and silly TV. “I like to give myself manicures and pedicures. It’s pretty inexpensive for the supplies, I’m good at it, and it makes me feel better when my nails look nice. This is usually done while watching a silly TV show, like Bob’s Burgers,The IT Crowd, or 30 Rock. I’ve seen every episodes of those shows a million times, so it’s comforting background noise while I concentrate on my nails!” —Brandi, 25

2. Running, meditation (and sometimes a beer). “It depends on my general mood, but if a day or week has been particularly long, I have a few things I like to do to calm me down. Usually a run is a good way to start off—it lets me be alone to gather my thoughts and take out some frustration. Then when I’m exhausted, I’ll usually put on a record and drink a beer. I also like to do a little meditation. Centering myself and clearing my mind reminds me of all the good things in life.” —Josh, 21

[Related: 5 Easy Mindfulness Exercises You Can Do at the Office]

3. Bubble baths. “When I really need to mentally detox, I revert back to my toddler days and take a nice, long, steaming hot bath. I light a ton of candles, turn on one of those ‘Evening Chill’ Spotify stations, and soak myself until I get nice and pruny. My muscles feel totally relaxed afterward, and I feel noticeably calmer too. To top things off, I’ll make a cup of hot water and lemon to sip on right before bed.” —Elizabeth, 27 

4. Sweatpants and pop songs. “After a long day, I like to put on my ugliest sweatpants, pour a glass of whiskey, and play League of Legends while listening to my favorite pop songs. If I’m lucky, my cat will join the party and come cuddle on my lap.”—Kinsey, 23

5. Something, anything active. “After a long day of sitting at my desk, I try to deal with my stress by getting out and doing something active. I like to go on a run, head to the lake to kayak, or even just go to a yoga class if it’s been a particularly stressful week. I feel like being able to work off the stress is the best way for me to deal with it.”—Jen, 24

[Related: How to Get Over Summer’s Mental Hangover]

6. Gossip (gasp!). “When I’m feeling particularly upset or just blah, I tend to indulge in gossip. I know it’s not the nicest form of self-care, but it helps me feel better about my life when I know no one else has their sh*t together either. Talking with my friends about other people’s lives also allows me to take a step back and see the bigger picture; it gets me out of my head in order to recenter and refocus my priorities.” —Hayley, 21

7. Cleaning and coffee—and donuts. “As I’ve gotten older, I’ve de-stressed by doing some of the things I hated doing when I was younger. Cleaning of any kind, laundry, and being in the kitchen seem to take my mind off things and make me feel a lot better. But my favorite bit of self-care is a cup of coffee and a dozen donuts. Everything in life is better with coffee and donuts.” —Hunter, 22

8. A nice, long drive. “I’ll usually watch a couple episodes of The Office when I get home, and then I’ll play guitar for a couple of hours. Sometimes, if I’m really stressed, I’ll take a drive at night and just crank the music and go around town.” —Wes, 22

9. Sibling bonding time. “One of my best forms of self-care is taking a walk with my sister. I’m able to tell her about my week, we both get a little exercise in, and it’s a great form of bonding.” —Nino, 25

10. Cooking up some comfort food. “Because I run a startup, downtime is difficult to come by. Even when I get home ‘from work,’ there are still emails to catch up on or something I can do to get ahead for the next day. I’ve become really good at mixing work with relaxing time on weeknight evenings. I’ll watch Gossip Girl reruns (Blaire is my evil twin) while making a list of priorities for the week, or I’ll catch up on the news while a lasagna bakes. Cooking definitely calms me!” —Kaylen, 24

Photo: Tom Merton/ Getty Images – source: http://www.levo.com


Craig Ballantyne is sharing 3 cool little tricks you can use to melt away stubborn fat.

Even though Craig is a regular author for Men’s Health and Women’s Health magazines, these are the sneaky little tricks he’s only sharing with you.

Tip #1

This is a super-easy way to make your meals more satisfying and to lose additional weight without feeling like your giving up all of your favorite foods.

Best of all, this simple tip makes your meals more enjoyable!

About 5 minutes before you start your meal, eat a spoonful of delicious creamy organic almond butter (peanut butter works too). Don’t worry about measuring it out or being precious – a sloppy spoonful is fine.

Not only does it taste delicious, but the healthy fats activate a little-known but powerful hormone called ghrelin. It’s the hormone that tells your body loud and clear that it should feel full and satisfied.

2 things will happen. As you eat, your body will be flooded with hormones that enhance the feeling of satisfaction and you’ll also feel full and delighted much sooner.

Overeating and feeling bloated will be a thing of the past!

Tip #2

This is a powerful one because it allows you to burn extra fat while you sleep. Awesome right? It’s another quick and easy trick you can start using today.

All you need to do is lower the temperature in your bedroom by a few degrees. A recent study showed that dropping the room temperature from 75° to 67° Fahrenheit causes men and women to burn more fat every single night.

It doesn’t get any better than that right? You don’t have to sacrifice and give up everything you love to lose weight. Adjust your thermostat or turn up the A/C and burn fat while you snooze.

Tip #3

Use your body’s natural cycles to lose weight as fast and easy as possible.

Most people don’t know this but your body goes through natural metabolic cycles throughout the day. It’s why you have energy in the morning, you get tired after lunch and why you get a little burst of energy when you get home at night.

The most important cycle for fat loss is in the morning. No doubt about it. That’s why leading fat loss researchers (and your mother) say that breakfast is the most important meal of the day.

So how can you take advantage of your body’s natural metabolic cycle in the morning? Well I discovered a simple 6-minute routine you can do in the morning to burn fat and boost energy.

I call it “6-Minutes to Skinny” because this routine is so unique and powerful that it can really get you skinny in just 6 minutes per day.

Click here to learn more about the unusual “6-Minute to Skinny” Secret. Craig has helped tens of thousands of people lose weight and look great over the last 15 years. source: http://womenslife.today

How to nurture accountability with employees

Organizations are made up of teams and individuals who execute specific tasks to drive a greater, overarching business goal. However, the link between individual actions and broader organizational goals is often unclear. Most employees, including leaders, do not realize the impact that their actions (or lack of) can have on business operations.

When key business tasks are carried out, whether on small projects or large initiatives, accountable behavior is essential. It is most significant when expressed as timely follow-through on commitments despite shifting priorities, conflicting goals and role ambiguity.

The need for accountability is clearly evident during moments that test leadership, but it can often go unnoticed when it comes to smaller, everyday activities and behaviors. If left unchecked, a lack of accountability can have a serious impact on business performance and operations. As such, spotting the signs early and addressing the issue strategically is imperative.

Some signs of insufficient or lack of accountability are:

  • Ongoing missed deliverables
  • Duplication of effort
  • Lack of ownership for the quality of work
  • Giving excuses
  • Blaming others
  • Putting off important tasks
  • Doing the minimum
  • Acting confused and playing helpless

These can all lead to missed deadlines, scapegoating, and overruns as well as severely impact productivity and business performance.

According to our 2014 Pulse Survey, only 18 percent of respondents reported the highest level of accountability in their organizations. This reveals that the vast majority of respondents feel most individuals within their organization did not take account of their actions and honor the commitments they made to others as much as they could or should.

The main reason for this lack of accountability is leaders themselves do not model accountability. In fact, according to Forum’s survey, less than half of leaders were seen as behaving in a way that promotes accountability in their people. They were unable to keep their promises, model responsibility, ensure clear goals and even provide necessary resources and abilities.

Key behaviors that demonstrate a leader’s personal commitment to accountability and encourage peers to also take more responsibility for their actions are:

  • Setting clear standards and expectations with teams around what accountability is and the importance it has on achieving and meeting goals/expectations;
  • Defining who is accountable for successfully completing assignments and achieving objectives;
  • Being open to feedback and problem-solving without placing blame when deadlines, tasks or deliverables are missed;
  • Teaching and demonstrating how to address people when they do not keep commitments and providing guidance on how to interact when holding one another accountable;
  • Applying appropriate consequences to team members who are regularly not able to meet established standards; and
  • Empowering others to hold each other accountable by establishing standards, provided training and role modelling.

While role modeling is a key behavior of high-performing leaders that influences accountability among teams, these leaders have to be careful that accountability is not seen solely as a disciplinary action. In such cases, accountability can become an overemphasis on the need to hold the workforce to account when it does not uphold its commitment. Instead, leaders can influence accountability by highlighting and celebrating achievements and giving positive examples during regular employee and team interactions so peers can learn from real experiences.

By applying these practices, leaders and their teams can establish internal and external contracts, clarify the conditions that are needed to fulfill them, and provide a process of giving and receiving feedback to keep commitments on track, which can then provide a foundation for further measurement.

For example, your organization is asked to roll out a program that came from the corporate office in Europe. Taking accountability means that instead of implementing it exactly as is, you localize the program, ensure that its spirit remains intact, and intended results are achieved and will go a long way. This way, you are not just ticking off boxes on a checklist — you also feel ownership in the actions taken to make the program work.

Improving personal accountability is a vital step in increasing employee engagement, which in turn boosts productivity, as individuals are more inclined to honor the commitments they make to others and are energized to put in extra effort. If an organization’s workforce and leaders are aware of their responsibilities, enthusiastic about reaching individual and shared goals, and meet expectations, overall organizational performance will improve.

At the end of the day, smaller, personal commitments count the most, as it drives employees to be responsible for their actions, engage in their work and effectively contribute to the bigger picture.

Russ Becker_HeadshotRuss Becker is the president of The Forum Corporation.

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10 Weirdest Jobs In The World

You think your job is weird? Check out this list of 10 Weirdest Jobs in The World and maybe you will find that your job is absolutely normal.

10. Worm picker

10 weirdest jobs in the world

Do you even wonder how the worms that you buy for your fishing baits, end up in that pack? The task of collecting worms is responsibility of worm pickers, yes you read well, worm pickers! The worker has to walk around grassy areas after dark, pick the worms and then pack them up for shipment. Definitely not the job i would like to do.

9. Professional hitchhiker

professioanl hitchhiker

In the Indonesia capital Jakarta the 20 million cars on the roads and poor traffic systems have caused  congestion to reach epidemic proportions. The problem reach such level, that in order to lessen the number of cars on the road the authorities introduced 3 passenger minimum vehicle areas. This opened whole new industry for professional hitchhikers. So its not the driver doing a favor to a hitchhiker, its opposite. They earn up to 7.5 dollar in a day, which is a lot when u know that average daily payment is around 1$.

8. Body farm caretaker

body farm caretaker

Body farms are research facilities where the human decomposition is studied. They are important tool when it comes to forensic science and law enforcement. The job of caretaker is to drag dead volunteers into the fields, arrange the bodies, and then collect collect the maggots and other flashy rooting object once the decomposition has occurred. Definitely worse job than worm picker!

7. Professional mourner


They have been around for a long time, even getting a mention in New York Times way back in 1877. The job basically involves crying and wailing loudly while you are at funeral, and you get paid for that, insuring more mourner atmosphere. This job is most popular in Balkan

6. Oshiya (Pushers)


The morning and evening rush hours on Japanese trains, would make sardines in tin look fairly space-less. Rather than adding more trains or expanding the network, the railways hire passenger arrangement staff, also known as “oshiya” or pushers. Their job is basically to push passengers into the train when is seems like no more can possible squeeze in. There are also some variations to the job, like when the carriage become so pack so that its physical impossible to close the door, than oshiya job is to push people out of train.

5. Professional sleeper

professional sleeper

This may be the most people dream job. And dreaming is part of professional sleeper job. The main group who use this service of these individuals are medical researchers or hotel industries who hire people to test the conform of their beds. Some professional sleepers can make up 15 000$ in a year, for a job that is so easy that they can do it with closed eyes!

 4. Children’s summer camp luggage organizer

luggage organizer

Some people have so much money that they don’t know what to do with it, so some New York mothers are paying professional organizer to pack their kids luggage for summer camp. This service is charged 200$ an hour and it usually takes 4 hours to pack a bag.

3. Pet food tester

pet food tester

Dog food companies need to test their products before they hit shops. To make sure they are highest quality, well as dogs can’t talk, its up to humans to give feedback about the aroma and taste of these lovely dog meals. The meat used in pet food has to be derived from animals past as fit for human consumption, so hopefully becoming violently sick from the job should be the rarity. Many people in this profession even claim that they are enjoying the taste of dog food, and can reach earning up to 74 000$ in a year.

2. Professional snuggler


This may sound a little bit creepy, but there are people that call them selfs professional snuggler out there and they claim that there is nothing sexual about professional. Its just a way for stress individuals to relax and there is nothing more therapeutic than a little bit of human contact. There are some rules when it comes to hiring snuggler such as keeping it on a platonic level and for these working in a snuggler house, as they call the place where they work, can expect a earnings of 260$ a da;y. Most snugglers are women and many in the industry say that they get accused of being boss studs which is really mean thing to say to people who just give you a hug, even thought they are doing it for a money, right?

1. Fart smeller

fart smeller

Yes, there is really a job where people are paid to smell human gases. Particularly popular in China, the point of fart smeller is to sniff out any medical conditions that may reveal themselves in persons rectal gas. Specific aroma can indicate some illnesses and can even pin point where in body they are originated from. This job obviously request an excellent sense of smell and people who want to start a career in smelling peoples gases must stay away from alcohol and smoking. It may sound like the worse profession in a world, but most dump smeller earn a 50 000$ a year! source: http://www.my10buzz.com/

How to Achieve Success When You Are 20

Universal Life Secrets

“Try not to become a man of success
but rather try to become a man of value.”
– Albert Einstein

You may not have thought about it, but every person wants to achieve success. Of course, there are many ideas about what success is; it can be earning money, having a strong family, or winning many friends. However, the real success is to be happy.

When you are 20, you have so many possibilities ahead, and what is also important – you have a chance to achieve success not sacrificing your personal life.

Here are 7 ways you can become more successful:

#1: Try something new

Have you ever dreamed about traveling around the globe? If yes, it is your chance, and you’d better not to miss it! When you don’t have your own family or a job place, it is easier to change your life.

Try something new, broaden your mind, and be ready to achieve success at the age of 20.#2: Master your skills

Holding a Bachelor/Masters degree is good, but improving your skills is better. Don’t hesitate to participate in different conferences, attend courses, or work freelancing. If you want to be successful, you should master your skills. It is never late to start doing it!

#3: Plan your budget

As soon as you learn how to plan your budget, you will be able to coin money. It is more likely to be on a tight budget when you are 20, so it is a good time to learn how to plan it. Write down your spending and income. Don’t forget to analyze your budget and struggle for better life. You are just 20, be sure that you are on the right way to success.

#4: Don’t waste your time

The most common way not to waste your time is to start your business. Maybe it won’t help you earn money but it can give you experience. For example, the author of this article, Andrew Howe, runs AdverbLess (http://adverbless.com/), and it helps to not only improve writing skills but also get experience.

#5: Think positive

If you want to achieve success, you need to start thinking positive. It can help you be happy and, therefore, stay productive and focused. No matter what way do you prefer; whether it is meditation, helping, singing, or smiling, you should do your best to start thinking positive.

#6: Form good habits

Look after your health, go in for sports, eat healthy food, read books. It is the right time to form good habits. You have a great future, so be kind to help yourself. Dream big, but start small!

If you are 20, your life is just starting up. Get the most out of it now, and see how you can become a successful person. Success is much more than wealth.

source: http://www.dumblittleman.com