Die Essener Schriftrollen – Schriftrolle 1

  1. Schriftrolle der Essener

Inhalt der ersten Schriftrolle, die von den Essenern in vorchristlicher Zeit
aufgezeichnet und in einer Felsspalte am Toten Meer aufgefunden wurde.

Mein Herz ist ein Garten, genannt Eden. Mein Garten ist fruchtbar und schöpferisch. Die Samen die in meinen Garten fallen, brauchen nur geringe Förderung, um zu blühen. Wie der Urgarten Eden kann er ein Segen oder ein Fluch sein. Ein ungepflegter Garten wird zu einem Dschungel, und kein Garten bringt mehr Wachstum hervor als der Garten meines Herzens und meines Gemütes.

Wenn Unkraut und Disteln gepflanzt werden, so sind sie es, die wachsen. Sie werden die Blumen meines Herzens, die Lebensfreude, ersticken und verderben.

Der Meister hat gesagt: “Wie der Mensch in seinem innersten Herzen denkt, so ist er.” Was ich in meinem Garten gepflanzt habe, ist, was ich bin, oder besser gesagt, ist, was ich glaube zu sein, und alles, was ich je in meinem Leben erfahren werde, ist, was ich im Garten meines Herzens pflanze.

Wenn ich Samen des Schmerzes und der Zurücksetzung säe, so pflanze ich in meinen Garten die Überzeugung, ungeliebt zu sein, pflanze Dornen des Schmerzes und der Benachteiligung, Selbstmitleid wird die Erfahrung meines Lebens sein.

Ich bin ein Gärtner. Mein Herz ist mein Garten. Man nennt es auch das Unbewusste oder das Unterbewusste. Ob Herz oder Gemüt mein Garten ist der Ort, wo ich Worte, Gedanken Überzeugungen und Ideen gepflanzt habe. Diese Samen sind lange gepflegt worden und haben als Früchte die Art und Weise erzeugt, wie ich die Welt sehe und erfahre.

Ich bin ein Gärtner und ein Denker. Meine Gedanken kommen aus meinem Garten, und meine Worte und Gedanken säen wiederum die Blumen oder das Unkraut.

Wie jedermann spreche auch ich zu mir selbst. Meine Gedankenwelt ist jeden wachen Augenblick tätig und mein Sinn ist voller Worte, Gedanken und Meinungen. Die Worte und Gedanken, die Meinungen und Überzeugungen sind Erzeugnisse meines Gartens, und sie sind wiederum Samen und Dünger für meinen Garten, so dass die Pflanzen, die darin wachsen, seien sie gut oder schlecht, jeden Tag stärker werden, tiefere Wurzeln schlagen und immer überzeugender wirken.

Mein Sinn ist voller Überzeugungen, Gewohnheiten und Beschreibungen. Wenn ich in einem Gesicht einen Ausdruck sehe, neige ich dazu zu sagen: “Das bedeutet…”, und wenn meine Interpretation für mich vorteilhaft zu sein scheint, reagiere ich mit einem Aufleuchten von Befriedigung und beglückwünsche mich. Sagt meine Interpretation aber, der Gesichtsausdruck sei unfreundlich gewesen und bedeute Ablehnung und Missbilligung, so lasse ich in mir ein Gefühl des Verletzt seins hochkommen und tadle die Person, deren Gesichtsausdruck ich interpretiert habe.

Ich war mir bis jetzt nicht bewusst, dass das Muster für meine Interpretation in meinem eigenen Garten gewachsen ist. Ich war mir nicht gewahr, dass Vertrauen und Selbstwertgefühl, das Wissen, dass ich goldrichtig bin und geliebt werde, Blumen aus meinem eigenen Garten sind.

Von heute an beginne ich ein neues Leben. Ich pflanze einen neuen Garten und ernte neue Gedanken und Überzeugungen.

Ich bin verantwortlich für die Gedanken, die ich hege. Ich bin überzeugt, dass ich zu mir selber spreche, wie ich das ja auch immer schon getan habe.

Ich bin der Meistergärtner meines Lebens. Ich kann nunmehr die Verantwortung für das übernehmen, was ich zu mir selber sage. Ich bin verantwortlich für meine Überzeugungen. Wie ich mich jeden Tag fühle, wird das Resultat dessen sein, was ich zu mir selber sage und was ich immer wieder zu mir gesagt habe.

Wenn ich es sehr schwierig finde, wunderbare und liebevolle Urteile über mich selbst zu mir zu sagen, so kommt das daher, dass diese einsam stehende kleine Blume des Selbstwertes, die ich heute pflanze, von den Tausenden, ja Millionen Unkräutern, die ich gepflanzt und genährt habe, fast erstickt wird.

Heute pflanze ich einen neuen Garten. Es ist ein Garten der Freude und neuen Lebens. Die Erzeugnisse meines Gartens werden Gesundheit, Wohlstand und Güte sein. Mein neuer Garten wird mich ernähren mit vielfältigen, bedeutungsvollen Freundschaften. Frohsinn und Zufriedenheit werden im Garten meines Herzen reifen.

Wucherndes Unkraut ist in meinem Garten, weil ich immer wieder an Mangel und Einschränkungen gedacht habe. Samen werden gesät durch Wiederholung. Es bildet sich ein Gedankenmuster, und das Unkraut wird bewässert und genährt, so oft ich mit Zurücksetzung, Demütigung, Zorn, Groll oder Eifersucht reagiere.

Auch mein neuer Garten wächst durch Wiederholung. Neue Gedanken bauen sich auf zu neuen Denkmustern, und freudige, kräftigende, nährende Gedanken werden zu verwurzelter Gewohnheit. Mein neuer Garten wird mein neues Leben, meine neuen Sitten und eine neue Weise, mich selbst zu sehen.

Heute fange ich an, eine neue Gewohnheit anzunehmen. Ich schaffe starke und tiefe Wurzeln verantwortungsbewussten Denkens, indem ich mich an das folgende tägliche Programm halte:

Die Schriftrolle, die ich in der Hand halte ist ein “Bija” (ausgesprochen bi-ha). Das Wort Bija bedeutet Samen. Die Bija-Schriftrollen enthalten die Samen fröhlicher, positiver, liebevoller und gesunder Gedanken, die in meinem Garten wachsen sollen.

Ich will mich mit solchen Gedanken mit aller Sorgfalt vertraut machen und darüber wachen, dass sie meinen Sinn erfüllen mit neuen Überzeugungen, Denkmustern und Handlungsweisen.

Jeden Tag werde ich meinen Sinn, mein Herz und meinen Garten in gleicher Weise wie meinen physischen Körper ernähren.

Jeden Tag werde ich die Worte dieser Schriftrolle wie eine Mahlzeit zu mir nehmen und die darin enthaltenen Gedanken verdauen. Das erste Mal werde ich sie beim Aufstehen lesen, damit die ersten Gedanken meines Tages, die meine Gemütslage und meine Erwartungen bestimmen, nährend und heilend sind und mich zur göttlichen Quelle meines Seins erheben.

Ich werde die Bija-Schriftrolle wieder zur Mittagszeit lesen, um die starken Wurzeln meiner neuen Denkgewohnheiten und einer neuen Lebensweise zu ernähren. Und jeden Abend werde ich die Bija-Schriftrolle lesen, so wie ich stoffliche Nahrung zu mir nehme.

Ein viertes Mal werde ich die Schriftrolle wiederholen, wenn ich zu Bett gehe, damit ich mit den Gedanken einschlafe, die ich für meinen schönen Garten ausgewählt habe.

Ich werde die Worte dieser Bija-Schriftrolle schweigend oder laut während dreißig Tagen viermal wiederholen. Dann will ich mich der zweiten Schriftrolle zuwenden.

Dazu verpflichte ich mich heute.

Ich will in mir einen neuen Garten pflanzen. Heute übernehme ich die Verantwortung für die Gedanken, die ich hege, und für alles, was ich glaube.

Ein Jahr lang werde ich diese Übung auf mich nehmen. Jeden Tag werde ich meinen Sinn und mein Herz viermal mit “Samen-Gedanken” füllen und dadurch mein Wesen verändern.

Es gibt zwölf Bija-Schriftrollen. Jeden Monat für ein Jahr werde ich eine neue Bija-Schriftrolle vornehmen, um meinen Garten mit neuem Leben zu erfüllen.

Dazu verpflichte ich mich heute vor mir selber.

Ich werde nicht wanken.

Ich bin mir selber wichtig genug, um meine Verpflichtung
einzuhalten und ein neues Leben aufzubauen.

Heute habe ich ein neues Leben begonnen, einen neuen Garten angelegt,
und ich bin erfüllt von Dankbarkeit.

 

Copyright 1984, The Paul Solomon Foundation

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Cancer – What You Need to Know About Its Causes

The word cancer is a broad term used to describe a complex but common group of more than 100 different diseases that can affect just about every organ in the body. Organs that cancer has a high rate of infection include the lungs, breast, and skin but it also affects other organs like throat, eyes, brain, and so on; each with its own causes, symptoms, and methods of treatment.

Causes of cancer

Cancer can affect any type of tissue in the body – and sometimes, is not restricted to a particular tissue alone but can spread over time to other parts of the body. However, what causes cancer in some cases may not cause cancer in other organs. For example, tobacco smoke is the leading cause of lung cancer but certainly cannot cause skin cancer.

Causes of cancer include:

Genetic make-up

Changes in the DNA structure in a gene can mean serious problems for the entire body. Such changes or errors are called mutations, and these mutations can be passed down from a parent to an offspring. That doesn’t mean that all the children will have cancer, but this indicates a predisposition to having cancer. What this means is: their chances of infection are higher.

Immune system

Generally, a weak immune system means the body cannot effectively fight diseases. That goes for cancer too. A weak immune system is like a ranch house surrounded by skyscrapers, the chances of the house getting a space in the landscape is slim.

Smoking, diet and physical activity

People with lifestyle risk factors such as smoking, obesity, and unhealthy diet are prone to different types of cancers. Too much red meat and processed food without enough fruits and vegetables increase the risk of cancer. Excessive alcohol can be responsible for cancer too.

Age

As you age, your body undergoes changes whereby gene mutations and cancerous cells have increased. The older you get, the more cases of abnormal cell growth there will be. A typical example is prostate cancer which affects men mostly in middle age. Environmental factors

Believe it or not, even something as pleasurable as a deep sun tan can be dangerous. This is because excessive exposure to sunlight can cause melanoma which is a form of skin cancer. Exposure to ultra violet rays of the sun and radiation made by man are very well-known carcinogens (cancer causing agents).

Cancer can be prevented in simple ways and also, sometimes, with the use of new surgical means. Knowledge is the core of cancer prevention, that is: knowing the causes and the risk factors. Medically, breakthroughs in gene mapping are allowing doctors identify cancer causing genes and those studies will no doubt lead to better ways of eliminating the genetic factors that increase predisposition to cancer.

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5 Perks to Internships for College Graduates

Many college seniors expect to have a full-time job waiting for them after graduation. And a brand new car. And keys to a top-floor apartment with a view.

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But if you’re planning to graduate this semester, get ready for a major reality check. Life after graduation often means moving back in with your first set of roommates (Mom and Dad) and living at home while continuing on with the dreaded job search.

After living on your own, excelling in your classes (hello, you graduated!) and rising to the top of the food chain in your clubs or sorority, returning to your childhood bedroom with no job offer may seem like a huge bruise to your ego. Not to mention this sudden surge of downtime makes for a confusing adjustment to life after college—how do you make efficient use of your time when you’re still straddling the line between college student and full-time employee?

This is where the post-graduate internship comes in.

Many students assume the “end goal” of college is graduating with a job offer. But once the cap and gown come off, it becomes clear that there is no one set path all graduates take. Some grads go straight to an entry-level job, some travel and some opt for a post-college internship.

Considering Option #3? You’re not alone. There are many reasons why recent grads choose to intern after college. Here are the top 5 perks that come along with the post-graduate internship:

1. You buy yourself more time to explore your interests.

Take it from a recent grad, the job hunt is excruciating. But the search becomes 1000x more difficult when even you don’t know where you see yourself five years down the road. Your job hunt will continue to plateau until you take some time to think and hammer out what you want (and no, the best way to “contemplate your interests” is not sleeping until 1 p.m. and spending your afternoons watching Netflix).

You need to get out there and explore your possible careers in a hands-on setting. After a few episodes of Sex and the City, you may *think* you’re meant to be a writer like Carrie or a badass PR queen like Samantha, but you won’t really know until you actually hold a position in that field. Apply to a wide range of internships, accept a position that piques your interest and get a better feel for your prospective industry.

2. You can test drive the city of your dreams.

Picture yourself in the Big Apple but not sure if you’re ready to commit to the big move? When you sign the contract for a full-time position, you’re committing to the city as well as the job.

Accepting an internship outside of your hometown is the perfect way to get an idea of what life in another city is like without uprooting yourself permanently. The standard internship only lasts 3 to 6 months, so find temporary housing and take advantage of this opportunity to get to know a new city before you have to commit to a town that you may or may not end up loving.

3. You give your resume a boost. 

Back in the day, all you needed was a degree and strong work ethic to score a full-time position. But in today’s job market, students who have held only one internship (or zero internships!) simply aren’t in the running for many entry-level positions.

Most companies view internships as precursors to a full-time job. So if you didn’t intern enough during college, this is your chance. You can spend the next few months after graduation making up for lost intern time.

4. You’ll make $$$.

To get around wage and labor laws, most unpaid internships require students to receive school credit for their services. However, companies can’t “pay” you in college credit if you’re no longer enrolled in school. Unless you agree to simply volunteer your time, your post-grad internship will come with a paycheck.

And the best part? With classes no longer filling up the bulk of your schedule, you are able to dedicate more time to working and interning—and the more hours you work, the more $$$ you rack up. Transitioning into a full-time intern allows you to makemoney instead of spending it on textbooks and credit hours.

5. There are internship programs specifically for college grads.

Employers are aware of how much time, work and skill went into earning your degree, which is why many companies create internship programs designed with recent grads in mind. You successfully graduated from college so you’ve already proven you’re a great student, and that same degree gives hiring managers confidence that you’ll be a great employee before you even walk through the door.

Rest assured that employers know that no one wants to spend $50,000+ on a degree for nothing, so seek out positions that are designed to put your skills to use. If you go after internships that are made specifically for college grads, you won’t run the risk of working side-by-side with a student who hasn’t even earned enough credits to be considered a sophomore yet. Oftentimes these post-graduate internships are just a company’s way of doing a “trial run” before you’re offered a full-time position, so put in a few months of your time, work hard and you very well may go from intern to full-time employee by August.

Don’t underestimate the power and promise of an internship just because you have a degree. Once your college years come to a close, enjoy this rare opportunity to delve into your career, explore your interests and embark on adventures in new cities. Do not hesitate to take advantage of the post-grad internship.

This article originally appeared on The Lala

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Born Happy?

To change one’s life, start immediately, do it flamboyantly, no exceptions.”
– William James, “father” of psychology

I have two friends, Mark and Brian, and one of them is a lot happier than the other.

Mark is chronically unhappy. He is often glum, frequently irritable, and sometimes hopeless, though he has never been clinically depressed. By contrast, Brian is a remarkably happy person. Although he has his low moments and periodic stress, he manages to find joy in his days and is quite content with the way his life is going. To understand why these two men are so different, let me tell you a little bit about them.

Both are in their early 40s and doing well in their careers. Brian is a professor of psychology at a prestigious university, who has reasonably bright students, a fair amount of autonomy in his work, and many opportunities for travel. His research program has been successful, garnering attention from all over the U.S. Mark is a deputy city attorney in a small but beautiful city right on the Pacific Ocean. He specializes in landlord-tenant disputes and other civil matters, and his success as a litigator has led to occasional media appearances, in which he is asked to speak about his latest cases. He gets a kick out of doing that.

Both have close-knit families. Mark is married to Dena, whom he met while on sabbatical in the Netherlands, and they have 3-year old twin boys. Brian is married to Karen. They started dating in law school, and now have a boy (age 6) and a girl (age 3).

Both men own homes in the suburbs of a major metropolitan area, about half an hour from the city and their jobs.

So, why is Brian happier than Mark? Was he simply lucky to be born with a sunnier disposition? Or, is he more fortunate with regard to the events and circumstances of his life?

Knowing them, I would be hard-pressed to assert that the life situation of one is clearly superior to the other. On balance, neither seems to have the better job, wife, kids, house, or car. Furthermore, scientific research has shown that prosperity, health, and physical attractiveness are only minimally related to one’s overall happiness. For example, a study by Ed Diener from the University of Illinois demonstrated that the richest Americans – those earning more than $10 million annually – report levels of personal happiness only slightly greater than the people who work for them. So, even if Mark had fewer of life’s “goods,” this shortfall wouldn’t explain his unhappiness.

What about genetics? Growing research done with identical and fraternal twins suggests that each person is born with a particular “happiness set point” – that is, a baseline or potential for happiness to which he or she is bound to return, even after major setbacks or triumphs. The set point for happiness is similar to the set point for weight. Some people are blessed with a “skinny disposition.” Even when they’re not trying, they easily maintain their weight. By contrast, others have to work extraordinarily hard to keep their weight at a desirable level and the moment they slack off even a bit, the pounds creep back on. So, Brian may simply possess a higher set point for happiness, a higher potential for well-being. He doesn’t have to work hard at it – he just is happy.

So if Brian’s happiness is due to genetics, what is left for Mark to do? Are we all doomed to obey the directives of our genes?

The answer is “no.” I am an experimental social psychologist who has conducted the first controlled experimental intervention studies to increase and maintain a person’s happiness level over and above his or her set point. In broadest terms, this research suggests that sustainable happiness is attainable regardless of genetics, if one is prepared to do the work. Much like permanent weight loss and fitness, becoming lastingly happier demands making some permanent changes, requiring effort and commitment every day of one’s life.

My two colleagues – Ken Sheldon at the University of Missouri and David Schkade at UC San Diego – and I developed a theory that describes the most important factors determining happiness. In sum, we argue that the set point determines just 50% of happiness, while a mere 10% can be attributed to differences in people’s life circumstances – that is, whether they are rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy, married or divorced, etc. This leaves a surprising 40% of our capacity for happiness within our power to change: Mark can be a great deal happier, and Brian could be even happier too.

Below, I describe some of the happiness-increasing strategies that have the greatest potential in lastingly elevating happiness. Note that you do not need to attempt the entire list of happiness activities, but should choose to focus only on the one to four strategies that “fit” you best – the ones that seem most natural and enjoyable to you.

– Counting Your Blessings
One way to practice this strategy is with a “gratitude journal” in which you write down the 3 to 5 things for which you are currently thankful – from the mundane (your flowers are finally in bloom) to the magnificent (your child’s first steps). Do this once a week, say, on Sunday night. Keep the strategy fresh by varying your entries and how you express them as much as possible. And if there’s a particular person who has been kind or influential in your life, don’t wait to express your appreciation. Write them a letter now, or, if possible, visit and thank them in person.

– Practicing Acts of Kindness
These should be both random (let the dad with the crying baby go ahead of you at the check-out counter) and systematic (read a newspaper to an elderly neighbor). Being kind to others, whether friends or strangers, triggers a cascade of positive effects – it makes you feel compassionate and capable, gives you a greater sense of connection with others and earns you smiles, approval and reciprocated kindness. These are all happiness boosters.

– Nurturing Optimism
This strategy involves such practices as looking at the bright side, finding the silver lining in a negative event, noticing what’s right (rather than what’s wrong), feeling good about one’s future and the future of the world, or simply feeling that you can get through the day. One way to practice this strategy is to sit in a quiet place and take 20 to 30 minutes to think about and write down what you expect your life to be 10 years from now. Imagine that everything has gone as well as it possibly could. You have worked hard and succeeded at accomplishing all of your life goals. Think of this as the realization of all of your life dreams. Then, write about what you imagined.

– Learning to Forgive
Let go of anger, resentment, and feelings of vengeance by writing – but, not sending – a letter of forgiveness to a person who has hurt or wronged you. The inability to forgive is associated with persistent rumination or dwelling on revenge, while forgiving allows you to move on.

– Increasing “Flow” Experiences
When you’re so absorbed in what you’re doing that you don’t notice the passage of time, you are in a state called “flow,” a term coined by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. So, become fully engaged at work, at home, and at play. Try to increase the number of flow experiences in your life, whether it’s completing a project at the office, playing with your children, or enjoying a hobby. Seek work and leisure activities that engage your skills and expertise.

– Investing in Relationships
One of the biggest factors in happiness appears to be strong personal relationships. Indeed, having the support of someone who deeply cares about you is one of the best remedies for unhappiness. Thus, this strategy involves putting effort into healing, cultivating, and enjoying your relationships with family and friends. Act with love, be as kind to the people close to you as you are to strangers, affirm them, share with them, and play together.

– Avoiding Overthinking
Remember the book, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff? There’s a time to think about the bad stuff in your life, but dwelling on your problems excessively is unhealthy. Very happy people have the capacity – even during trying times like a parent’s chronic illness – to absorb themselves in an engaging activity, stay busy, and have fun. To practice this strategy, pick a distracting, attention-grabbing activity that has compelled you in the past and do it when you notice yourself dwelling.

– Savoring Life’s Joys
Pay close attention and take delight in momentary pleasures, wonders, and magical moments. Focus on the sweetness of a ripe mango, the aroma of a bakery, or the warmth of the sun when you step out from the shade. Some psychologists suggest taking “mental photographs” of pleasurable moments to review in less happy times.

– Taking Care of Your Soul
Studies show that religious and spiritual people are happier and healthier than others, though researchers don’t yet know why. Perhaps the social support of belonging to a close-knit religious group is valuable, as is the sense of meaning and purpose that comes from believing in something greater than yourself. If you are so inclined, join a church, temple, or mosque; read a spiritually-themed book; or volunteer for a faith-based charity.

– Committing to Your Goals
People who strive for something significant, whether it’s learning a new craft or raising moral children, are far happier than those who don’t have strong dreams or aspirations. Find a happy person and you will find a project. However, being dedicated to any pursuit won’t make you happy if you’re just doing it for superficial reasons such as making money, boosting your ego, or succumbing to peer pressure.

– Using Your Body: Exercise, Meditation, Smiling, and Rest
Getting plenty of sleep, exercising, stretching, meditating, smiling and laughing can all enhance your mood in the short term and promote energy and strong mental health. Practiced regularly, they can help make your daily life more satisfying and increase long-term happiness.

The secrets to happiness are simple to learn, but not simple to carry out. However, with determined effort and commitment, anyone can learn practices and habits that will help them achieve levels of happiness over and above their set point and – even more important – to maintain those levels. You shouldn’t just “pursue” happiness – you should “construct” or “create” it yourself. source: http://www.evenhappier.com/

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Warren Buffett’s “2 List” Strategy: How to Maximize Your Focus and Master Your Priorities

With well over 50 billion dollars to his name, Warren Buffett is consistently ranked among the wealthiest people in the world. Out of all the investors in the 20th century, Buffett was the most successful.

Given his success, it stands to reason that Buffett has an excellent understanding of how to spend his time each day. From a monetary perspective, you could say that he manages his time better than anyone else.

And that’s why the story below, which was shared directly from Buffett’s employee to my good friend Scott Dinsmore, caught my attention.

Let’s talk about the simple 3-step productivity strategy that Warren Buffett uses to help his employees determine their priorities and actions.

The Story of Mike Flint

Mike Flint was Buffett’s personal airplane pilot for 10 years. (Flint has also flown four US Presidents, so I think we can safely say he is good at his job.) According to Flint, he was talking about his career priorities with Buffett when his boss asked the pilot to go through a 3-step exercise.

Here’s how it works…

STEP 1: Buffett started by asking Flint to write down his top 25 career goals. So, Flint took some time and wrote them down. (Note: you could also complete this exercise with goals for a shorter timeline. For example, write down the top 25 things you want to accomplish this week.)

STEP 2: Then, Buffett asked Flint to review his list and circle his top 5 goals. Again, Flint took some time, made his way through the list, and eventually decided on his 5 most important goals.

Note: If you’re following along at home, pause right now and do these first two steps before moving on to Step 3.

STEP 3: At this point, Flint had two lists. The 5 items he had circled were List A and the 20 items he had not circled were List B.

Flint confirmed that he would start working on his top 5 goals right away. And that’s when Buffett asked him about the second list, “And what about the ones you didn’t circle?”

Flint replied, “Well, the top 5 are my primary focus, but the other 20 come in a close second. They are still important so I’ll work on those intermittently as I see fit. They are not as urgent, but I still plan to give them a dedicated effort.”

To which Buffett replied, “No. You’ve got it wrong, Mike. Everything you didn’t circle just became your Avoid-At-All-Cost list. No matter what, these things get no attention from you until you’ve succeeded with your top 5.”

The Power of Elimination

I believe in minimalism and simplicity. I like getting rid of waste. I think that eliminating the inessential is one of the best ways to make life easier, make good habits more automatic, and make you grateful for what you do have.

That said, getting rid of wasteful items and decisions is relatively easy. It’s eliminating things you care about that is difficult. It is hard to prevent using your time on things that are easy to rationalize, but that have little payoff. The tasks that have the greatest likelihood of derailing your progress are the ones you care about, but that aren’t truly important.

Every behavior has a cost. Even neutral behaviors aren’t really neutral. They take up time, energy, and space that could be put toward better behaviors or more important tasks. We are often spinning in motion instead of taking action.

This is why Buffett’s strategy is particularly brilliant. Items 6 through 25 on your list are things you care about. They are important to you. It is very easy to justify spending your time on them. But when you compare them to your top 5 goals, these items are distractions. Spending time on secondary priorities is the reason you have 20 half-finished projects instead of 5 completed ones.

Eliminate ruthlessly. Force yourself to focus. Complete a task or kill it.

The most dangerous distractions are the ones you love, but that don’t love you back.

Thanks to my man Scott Dinsmore for sharing this story with me. His original post on Buffett’s strategy is here. –
source: http://jamesclear.com

40 Ways to Let Go of Anger Right Now

“You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.” ~Buddha

Anger is merciless.

It leaves you feeling torn up inside.

Your head pounds. Your jaw locks. And your muscles scream. Every inch reels in pain with the electric shock that shoots through you.

You can’t eat, or sleep, or function like a rational human being.

You’ve good reason to be afraid of unleashing that screaming monster of rage lurking inside you. You’ll likely lose control, lash out, and retaliate.

Even though you have been wronged, you’ll end up feeling guilty, ashamed, even horrified by your reaction. That’s one more regret your peace of mind wouldn’t stand.

But sometimes the person you’re enraged with is yourself. That’s a doubly painful blow of anger and self-disgust.

Being angry is exhausting . . . and yet you’ve found the energy to keep it alive for months, even years.

I have too. Oh sure.

I devoted the first half of my life to being angry, silently seething, and ever resentful. I’d periodically explode in rage and then be consumed with shame for losing control and screaming words I could never retract.

I lived on nerves that felt like they were constantly fried with 40,000 volts. That was a hideous way to be.

And for the longest time, that burning fury that raged inside me seemed totally justified. All that bitter resentment, well, “what else should I feel?” my thoughts screamed. No chance to be a kid, no carefree years, blissfully unaware of some of the bad things that could happen in life. They were right there, every day. They stole my childhood.

Growing up in an unpredictable, unhappy environment was the pits. I hated it, hated not being able to escape, and hated everyone involved because they were old enough to know better. They denied me my childhood.

My anger was borne out of having had no control of those events; my resentment grew out of a sense of loss. Oh boy, bitterness is so corrosive.

All that anger, all that resentment had to go for me to have any chance of happiness.

So with a newfound rationality, I learned to listen to my angry thoughts. I heard the pain and sadness wrapped in every one. I recognized the self-harm my anger was inflicting. I realized I’d been the one keeping alive those events and people that had hurt me, and I alone had the power to decide their time was over.

And that feels incredible.

I very much want that for you too. To be free. To let go of all that resentment, anger, and rage.

How? With one small, anger-conquering action at a time.

40 Ways to Let Go of Anger 

1. Look at your rulebook.

If you never explained your rules to the person who angered you, how can you be upset that they broke them? Maybe their rules are different.

2. Use aromatherapy to create a calm environment.

Candles and diffusers alleviate stress and anxiety. Or try a couple of calming drops of essential lavender oil on your pillow.

3. Buy a recordable alarm clock.

Wake up to a soothing self-recorded message. Alternatively, use an app.

4. Recognize that others say and do harsh things out of jealousy.

Change your anger to compassion because they are obviously struggling with their own negative emotions.

5. Personalize a keep-calm mug.

Choose some anger-defeating text for your mug. Use it at work or home.

6. Let your anger fizzle out with a bath-bomb.

Relax in a warm bath as you watch the bath-bomb and your anger fizzle away.

7. Quiet your anger.

If you’re likely to fall into a rage when speaking up, say nothing at all. “Silence is sometimes the best answer.” ~Dalai Lama

8. Visualize your anger as a drop of water.

Close your eyes and see your mind as a crystal-blue ocean of calm. See your anger as a single drop of water falling into your calm ocean, barely causing a ripple before being absorbed.

9. Create a universe of peace in your bedroom.

Make a night sky with luminous stars and planets. Lie on your bed with the lights off, and pick a star to project your anger onto. Now re-focus to see the whole galaxy with your anger as a tiny dot among a universe of peace.

10. Put your anger to bed.

Anxiety and irritability are instigated by lack of sleep. More sleep can be as effective as conscious meditation. “Sleep is the best meditation.” ~Dalai Lama

11. Take responsibility for your anger.

Someone can influence your anger response, but only you control it.

12. See your anger as a boiling kettle.

Flick the switch to off as if you were turning off your anger. Let your temper cool down like the kettle.

13. Look at who you’ve become.

See how letting go will allow you to be true to yourself and finally at peace.

14. Paint an angry mouth on an hourglass egg timer.

Now paint a happy mouth on the other half. Turn your angry mouth upside down and watch the happy mouth fill.

15. Understand that you are only hurting yourself.

“Holding onto anger is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” ~Unknown

16. Recognize their inner angst.

This is the real reason they acted like they did. Heal your anger by setting out to help them feel better about themselves.

17. Blow up a dozen balloons.

Write an angry thought on each one and step on them until they pop, leaving only the shredded remnants of your deflated anger.

18. See your anger as a runaway horse.

Imagine it trying to break out of your “mind paddock.” Rein it in.

19. Use wise words to halt angry words.

In confrontational situations, remember: “Speak in anger and you will have made the best speech you will regret.” ~Dr. Laurence J. Peter

20. Wear a calming color.

Avoid confrontational colors like red and black. Instead wear calming blue or soothing green.

21. Have a calming message engraved on a ring.

Avoid anger by playing with your ring and thinking of those soothing words.

22. Use a mirror for self-reflection.

Look in the mirror and let your anger out. “The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny your feelings, the more they grow.” ~Unknown

23. Shred a physical representation of your anger.

Take those hurtful letters, print off those emails, or write out your angry thoughts. Push the pages through a shredder, and reduce your anger to tatters.

24. Record yourself describing your anger.

Capture your angry thoughts on your phone or computer. Listen back to this as if it were a good friend telling you theirs. Offer yourself the empathetic advice you would give a friend.

25. Repeat a happy mantra.

Regain control of your emotions by repeating, “I’m a happy person who does not see the benefit of staying angry.”

26. Choose a positive, healthy outlet.

Use feel-good endorphins to dispel anger by going for a run or singing loudly and dancing energetically.

27. Express your anger to a friend.

A supportive environment can be hugely beneficial in getting your emotions out safely.

28. Use a self-hypnosis video.

Hypnosis can help you get your anger under control. Alternatively, try a registered hypnotherapist.

29. Shift your perspective.

If you cannot change the events that have made you angry, change your perspective for the sake of your peace of mind.

30. Take a soothing shower.

Wash away your anger with calming ylang ylang or chamomile shower gel.

31. Personify your anger.

Imagine it as a fiery-tempered troll in your path. Push it away.

32. Remind yourself that you have a choice.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.” ~Viktor E. Frankl. Decide that your response will not be anger.

33. Keep this quote on you at all times:

“He who angers you, conquers you.” ~Elizabeth Kenny. Repeat it to yourself when you feel anger rising, or pull it out and read if possible.

34. Take a step back.

In a confrontational situation, physically take a step back.

35. Be honest with yourself.

What are you achieving by holding on to anger? Is it a case of injured pride that you would really love to swap for forgiveness?

36. Picture angry thoughts as bitter, poisonous seeds.

Stop these from taking root in your mind. Instead, raise a happy, forgiving “mind garden” by populating your thoughts with anger-defeating quotes.

 37. Plant a Garden of Compassion.

Take the idea above a step further with a flower border or window box. For your own well-being, plant a flower for anyone who has angered you to signify your wish to forgive them.

38. Weed out your anger.

When you tend your Garden of Compassion, picture each weed you root out as further uprooting your anger.

39. Seek help to defeat your anger.

If you feel stuck in a cycle of resentment and anger, consider taking a course.

40. Laugh at your anger.

“People are too serious. All the time, too serious.” ~Dalai Lama. Anger is sometimes just injured self-pride. It’s not easy, but try not taking yourself so seriously.

Beat Your Inner Anger Monster for Good

Being angry has stolen your happiness for too long.

It’s eaten you up from the inside and shattered your peace of mind.

It’s even affected your health.

But worse still, it’s allowed the person or events that caused your anger to have power over you.

Just imagine getting through a whole day without losing your temper.

Imagine that seething resentment disappearing, leaving you feeling liberated of all those toxic thoughts.

Imagine being able to react with forgiveness instead of rage and being able to respond by letting go rather than clinging on to old hurts and wrongs.

By taking small, simple actions, you can take great leaps in beating your anger monster for good.

Try to be open-minded in letting these ideas speak to you. Pick the ones that shout loudest.

Put yourself back in charge of your emotions, your life, and your happiness.

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10 Things You Should Never Say To Someone With Depression

 

At one point in our lives, we will have encountered someone who is suffering from depression whether it be a coworker or perhaps even a family member. Many of us do not understand depression nor do we understand the seriousness of it. We think, this person is just sad, but it’s more than that. Much more than that.

When we do come across someone with depression our first reaction is to want to hug them and then offer, what we think are, words of encouragement. We want to lift their spirits, make them smile, take their pain away. It’s not as simple as it sounds. Depression is a very complex condition to deal with, for many. So what are we supposed to say to them? How do we cheer them up? In an effort to try to make them happy we sometimes miserably fail without even realizing it. Below is a list of some of things you should probably never say to anyone who does suffer with depression.

1. Things will be ok.

They probably will be, you’re right. Right now things aren’t ok. Things suck. This isn’t anything that is going to give them hope. They don’t even care if things are going to be ok. All they care about is the fact that at this moment, things are not ok. Depressed people don’t look into the future to see roses and butterflies.

2. It’s not that bad.

Yes, it is. It is very bad. It is so bad that they probably have thought of taking their own life once or twice in the past week. Yes, things are that bad. In their mind, maybe not yours. You aren’t in their mind. You have no idea how bad things are.

3. Lighten up.

If it was only that easy. They would love to lighten up. They would love to be just as happy and cheery as you are. They don’t want to have to deal with the torment going on their minds right now. They can’t lighten up. They don’t even know what that means or how to do it.

4. You’re upset for nothing.

To you, it’s nothing. To them, it feels like the end of the world. The worst possible thing ever. What you think is nothing or easy to deal with, is a mountain to them. Something they are not sure how to get over or if they even ever will. It’s not nothing. It’s a catastrophe.

5. Just think happy thoughts.

Well if that’s all it took then they wouldn’t suffer from depression. They don’t know how to control their thoughts to turn them into happy positive thoughts. They wished it was that easy. Many depressed people need medication to do that.

6. Have you tried … ?

Tried what? The newest and latest self help craze on the internet? The latest herb or tincture? Maybe even rubbing their feet at night with some potion that is sure to rid them of any and all negative thoughts? No they probably haven’t, nor do they want to. If you aren’t a doctor or specialist, you should probably keep your suggestions to yourself. A depressed person probably won’t take your advice anyway.

7. I know how you feel.

Really? Do you? How so? No you don’t. You have no clue how a depressed thinks or feels or what’s going on in their minds right now. We all think and feel differently, whether you are depressed or not, so telling them you know, is just plain ridiculous. No you don’t.

8. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

They aren’t feeling sorry for themselves. Their mind is in a state of turmoil right now and it has spiralled out of control. They don’t know how to deal with this sorry state they are feeling. It’s not that they feel sorry for themselves, they are just sad and want someone to help them, really.

9. Some people are worse off than you.

Yes, some people probably are. They know there are others who have a really bad life. They get that. That’s not the problem right now. They don’t really want to hear about the others who have a worse life. That isn’t going to make them feel better. Their life is horrible right now, and that’s all that is important, at this very moment.

10. Think of all the good things you have.

Yes, they do have lots of good things. They know that. When they are happy and not in a depressed state, they are very grateful for all the blessings in their life, but when they are not happy, all that means nothing. There is nothing to be grateful for and they aren’t up for counting any blessings.

Depression isn’t anything to take lightly and can’t be cured by a simple kind and loving statement. If you know someone who you think might be depressed, try to be there when they need you even if only with a hug and an ear. source: http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk

Why The Pursuit Of Success Is Tedious And It’s Supposed To Be

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Putting your head down and doing the work required to achieve your dream is going to be hard work. If you’re like me, you’ll have 101 excuses why you have another task you need to do.

“I would make a video today, but I have to pack for my holiday.”

“I’d like to write a blog post about fear, but I have to get ready for my speech on Tuesday.”

There always seems to be a distraction when it comes to putting in the work. Our brains are experts at lying to ourself so that we can experience more pleasure. Instead of putting off doing the daily tasks we need to be successful, we need to make them part of our routine like brushing our teeth or getting changed.

Below are the 5 things to remember about the pursuit of success:

1. Hard work is time-consuming

Pursuing success takes all the time you have, and there is always more to do. Training for sport doesn’t get easier it get’s harder. The more you move up in the ranks of your sport the harder you have to train. To be the best in the world at something you have to outwork all of your competitors.

While you’re relaxing, someone in another country is training harder than you because they want it more and are prepared to work for it. Even when you feel like it’s time to reward yourself what you really should be doing is training even harder.

Success is not some mythical far away land; it’s lying right in front of you. All you have to do is be prepared to put the work in and put aside the hours to practice and become stronger at your craft. While you’re putting in the hours, you’ll see that a lot of success is not fun at all.

To get to the fun parts you have to go through the struggle and push through your barriers. Only then, will you get to enjoy all best parts of success. You’ll need every piece of you to visualise what it will be like to stand on stage after you have wowed the world with your unique skill. This moment is reserved for the very best people.

2. Success is all about tedious repetition

You will never be successful at something unless you are okay with dealing with the dull and boring tasks that come with the pursuit of success. Most of what you need to do to be successful is boring as hell and every day is not going to be rosy.

“You’re going to have to battle through the blizzard if you want to get to the sunset”

On some days it’s going to feel like the snow is getting thicker and thicker and it’s even harder to walk than the day before. Your friends are going to be out partying without you, and you’re going to need to be disciplined enough to sit your ass down and study the greats.

You’ll have hundreds of hours of reading to do, and you’ll need to watch every video on the Internet about your craft. There are going to be more lows than you’re used to handling and that’s how you’ll know you are pursuing success. You can’t honestly tell me you thought success was always exciting now can you?

When you see someone become successful it’s easy to think that the journey was tough but fun at the same time. It wasn’t. You weren’t in that successful person’s room each night when they felt like giving up or trying some other pursuit.

You weren’t there when their wife left them, or their pursuit of success made everyone around them turn against them. Are you willing to sacrifice everything you have including being loved in the short term to pursue success?

3. Small steps make you feel like you’re going nowhere

It’s not uncommon to believe that success is made up of a few giant steps that take an enormous amount of courage to overcome the initial fear. Success is quite the opposite. While there will be some giant steps you will need to take, most of the road will be made up of small steps.

The worst part about small steps is that you can take thousands of them and still feel like you’ve gotten nowhere. It’s easy to get bored when all you’re doing each day is taking lots of little steps. As humans, we want progress and that comes through taking big steps, not small ones.

The problem is that success is all about the small steps. The aim is to take a few more positive steps each day than you did the day before. Over time you will build up massive momentum that will give you the energy to become unstoppable at your craft.

For now, though, it’s time to get used to the small steps and be okay with not getting instant gratification. Know that every small step you take will eventually add up. You can reach the top you just need to be patient.

4. Focusing is how you achieve the impossible

To pursue success in any form, you will need to get excellent at focusing. Putting equal amounts of your time and energy into many different areas is a recipe for failure. You need to work on focusing all of your time on one craft that you want to be world-class at.

If you’ve ever met an Olympic champion, you’ll notice that they are incredibly focused on the task at hand. If you ask them what they want, they’ll be able to outline it in very boring detail that will put you to sleep.

“Get clear about what you want and then focus like crazy to achieve it no matter what life throws at you”

5. Your dream is not your hobby it’s your life (act like it)

Don’t mistake your dream for your hobby. The pursuit of success is about spending time on your dream and not dabbling in hobbies. Hobbies are things that you do half-assed and part time. Your dream is a full time 24/7 pursuit that you are willing to die for.

Your dream is your entire life, and it’s what you are going to be remembered for. You will only ever receive mediocre results if you treat your craft like a hobby that you hope to be good at some day. Get specific around your timeframes and put some framework around what’s non-negotiable for you.

Set a daily schedule of what you are going to achieve towards your dream and then turn the TV off, put your head down, and start doing the “doing.” These words I’m writing to you don’t write themselves. These words require me to be focused and inspired full time.

If I put in a half-assed effort giving you advice, then you would go to some other website and find someone else who gives a damn about you. I’m here writing early in the morning instead of sleeping because I care about your success. I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “Are you willing to do the same? Are you willing to give it all you’ve got?” – source: http://addicted2success.com

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Audrey Hepburn’s Top 3 Tips for a Happy Life

“I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.”

“Pick the day. Enjoy it – to the hilt. The day as it comes. People as they come… The past, I think, has helped me appreciate the present – and I don’t want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.”

Back in the old days, when movies were shot in black and white – and later on too – Audrey Hepburn was one of the biggest stars in Hollywood.

Not only did she win an Oscar for “Roman Holiday”, she was also an ambassador for UNICEF and she’s a timeless fashion icon.

This week I’d like to share three of my favorite tips from Hepburn for living a happy life.

1. Your outside is a reflection of the inner you.

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”

I think this is a wonderful quote and in my experience a very true one.

How other people see you aren’t just about cheekbones and a good sense of style. People view people through filters in their minds.

  • A kind person may seem more handsome when you get to know him.
  • A handsome person may suddenly not seem that attractive as you are confronted with her negative attitude.

And this goes for pretty much any meeting or relationship you have with someone.

What you feel and think has a big impact not only on you. It’s also spread to the people around you.

Emotions are contagious. And people form opinions about others oftentimes in subtle and almost unconscious ways. Now, this may sound a bit silly or like it’s not of that great importance (I certainly used to think that way at least).

But try this for example:

  • Assume rapport just before a meeting.
  • Focus on the good and positive things you can find and appreciate in the person you are meeting.

You’ll find that overall they respond very differently than if you are negative and have a distant attitude towards them. It’s sometimes almost like speaking to two different people.

Because people tend to mirror and reflect – the gestures, mood and attitude – and adapt to each other very often in interactions.

Of course, it’s not always easy to look for the good in others, speak only kind words or to not put up walls in your mind between you and others. Sometimes you just have bad days.

But keep Hepburn’s thought in mind and make use of it when you can.

Because whatever that is inside of you is always shining out and through in one way or another.

2. Don’t worry about what others may think of you.

“I never think of myself as an icon. What is in other people’s minds is not in my mind. I just do my thing.”

One of the biggest parts of doing what you really want is to stop caring so much about what other people think of you.

A lot of the actions you take – or do not take – may be because you need approval from other people. When we are young we get grades in school that tells us that we are “good”. This makes it very easy to create a life where you always go looking for the world to give you the next hit of approval. It may be from your family, boss, friends, co-workers and so on.

But this need creates neediness. And the stronger the need the stronger the neediness. And so other people will sense this. And approval may be withheld or used to manipulate you. Or they may just not like your neediness.

The people on the other hand that does not care that much about getting approval often do more of what they want deep inside. They may be considered courageous for instance. So the way they live their lives will gain appreciation and approval from the people around them.

Action-tip: But how do you stop caring so much about what people may think?

The best thing I have found for that is simply to realize that they honestly don’t care that much about what you do or say. They are focused on their own challenges, their partners, kids and jobs and what you and others may think of them.

3. Finally getting something may not be all it’s cracked up to be.

“Success is like reaching an important birthday and finding you’re exactly the same.”

Often we wish for something. A new job or promotion, a new relationship or perhaps a new pair of shoes. And you think: “if I only get this thing, then I’m home, then I’ll feel happy and good all around”.

And then you get it. And it’s awesome. But often for just a while. And then you may feel like maybe something went a bit wrong. Like it didn’t fulfill you or complete you like you thought it would.

Why?

  • You get used to it. After while when you get used to something, when it becomes normal, then the ego tends to want more once again.
  • You are still the same. You can’t enjoy something for what it is because even though your environment changes, you are still the same. With the same self-imposed barriers for your own success and happiness and maybe self-sabotaging behavior. And until you take a look at those things you may find yourself repeating the same patterns over and over.
  • Any success is often accompanied by unexpected and not always so pleasant side effects. Things may seem just perfect when you dream about them. In reality, it can become a little more complicated and messy.

Now, new things or people can be great.

But if you think this one success or event you are looking forward to in life will fix all your problems or if you focus on the wrong aspects – what is not perfect, how can I get more etc. – instead of the positives and gratitude then you may find yourself always looking for the next thing and create quite a bit of stress and unhappiness within. source: http://www.positivityblog.com/